Author Archives: Carlos Todd

How to choose a credible online (internet) anger management class

How to choose a credible online (internet) anger management program Length of time in business. There are some companies that have been in business only 3-4 months and claim that they have thousands of customers. This is quite unlikely. Choose … Continue reading

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The Domestic Batterer’s Manifesto

As a childhood witness to domestic violence, a mental health practitioner and a student of aggression in its various forms, I believe I have a unique insight into the mind of the batterer. I philosophy believe that some aggression is … Continue reading

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Anger management: Thermometer and Thermostat

True anger management demands that we recognize our emotions and consciously decide how we will act on those emotions. Emotions are fascinating because they are a way of communicating with the world, they give us clues about what we love, … Continue reading

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Anger Management: Lessons from the playground

As children we dream and workout these dreams through play. On the playground children become doctors, lawyers, firemen, policemen, truck drivers etc. Children learn to perceive what they love, what they hate, what makes them happy and sad on the … Continue reading

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101 Free Anger Management Tips: Practice them for a better life

Read a book Breathe deeply Talk with a friend Transferring the situation from negative to positive by self talk HALT! Find out if you are hungry, lonely, tired or some emotion other than anger Take a long bubble bath Have … Continue reading

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Is Your Anger a Sign of Grief?

Sometimes if it quacks like a duck and walks like a duck it may not be a duck. In the case of anger sometimes the appearance of aggression and hostility may not be anger. In fact, it may be a … Continue reading

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When You Should Avoid Conflict

Before I begin let me first say that when I speak about conflict in this article I am referring to any interaction where there are opposing viewpoints. Also, I do not consider conflict as negative.  Now that is out of … Continue reading

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Anger and the Emotional Vocabulary

Some years ago I wrote a series of articles titled, “Change Your Language Reduce Your Anger.” In those articles I introduced the idea that anger management can be achieved if we learn an emotional vocabulary. Since then, my position has … Continue reading

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Two Categories of Anger

Anger is either situational or existential. In my work over the years I have found people present with anger management issues either because of a trigger event in their lives or because of more existential concerns. It is easy to … Continue reading

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Good and Bad Avoiding

Dr. Ralph H. Kilmann, CEO of Kilmann Diagnostics and coauthor of the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict-Mode Instrument (TKI) There are two kinds of “avoiding” to keep in mind: good avoiding and bad avoiding. Good avoiding is when you purposely leave a conflict … Continue reading

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